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October 23, 2019

robynarticleLately I’ve had a visitor show up around 10:30 each night—hunger pangs. This is annoying because I try not to snack after nine. Despite my conviction, my body is convinced I am in fact starving. And it puts up quite a fight for gratification.

A quick glance at the story of Jacob and Esau leads me to believe the stomach has been the instigator of less-than-healthy choices before and must not be trusted. Here’s how The Message tells it.

One day Jacob was cooking a stew. Esau came in from the field, starved. Esau said to Jacob, “Give me some of that red stew—I’m starved!” That’s how he came to be called Edom (Red). Jacob said, “Make me a trade: my stew for your rights as the firstborn.” Esau said, “I’m starving! What good is a birthright if I’m dead?” Jacob said, “First, swear to me.” And he did it. On oath Esau traded away his rights as the firstborn. Jacob gave him bread and the stew of lentils. He ate and drank, god up and left. That’s how Esau shrugged off his rights as the firstborn. (Genesis 25:29-34)

I can’t imagine being hungry enough to make such a trade, and yet I can recall many times I acted on impulse without considering the consequences. I hate waiting for things.

“The hardest part about buying into deferred gratification is you have to go against what your entire being wants to do.”

Chuck Swindoll talks about Esau and instant gratification in his book Fascinating Stories of Forgotten Lives. “If I could shout these next three words to your face, I would: BEWARE INSTANT GRATIFICATION! It’s the first sign of desperation and forms a dangerous platform for making decisions,” (67). What’s the solution to this problem? Deferred gratification, otherwise known as self-control.

Developing the habit of deferring gratification is no simple task; our culture lives with the short term in mind. So how do we overcome those 10:30 p.m. hunger pangs when they strike? And what if they’re especially insistent? I have three suggestions.

1. Take the long view

I first heard this on one of those cop shows and it stuck with me. One character was upset because her suspect was getting off the hook and her partner said, “Take the long view.” Her short-term goal of “getting her man” did not outweigh the long-term benefits of making a deal with the suspect. Taking the long view doesn’t mean you give up on your dreams or wants, it means you take time to gain perspective and acknowledge the benefits of waiting.

2. Let “future you” deal with it

This is not a new concept but at the risk of promoting procrastination I suggest sleeping on a decision before acting. Waiting even a day can curb your initial enthusiasm and save you from actions you may regret later.

3. Think about the ends rather than means

Let’s say you’re like me and get the snacking temptation right before bed. If you have a goal of losing weight then you know snacking at night is not a means to this end. Making goals and thinking through how to achieve them makes you more likely to defer gratification and avoid temptation.

The hardest part about buying into deferred gratification is you have to go against what your entire being wants to do. But it will do you good in the end. “Moderation is better than muscle, self-control better than political power” (Proverbs 16:32).

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Robyn Roste

Robyn Roste is a professional writer with blogging, marketing and tourism experience. She also has a bachelor of journalism and diplomas in media and communications and biblical studies.

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